I've been meaning to post about my New Year's resolutions, but with Lindsey having a baby, I put it off for a few days. Anyway, I did make some resolutions, and so far I've already put a little bit of effort into them. I have three things that I want to do this year, and the first two are somewhat related:
- Put myself in more social situations with others, and make more time for friends.
- Put Avery in more social situations.
For some people, these might seem 'easy,' but since becoming mom, I tend to almost isolate myself and Avery, and Travis. We do go out and do things, like shopping and running, but mostly by ourselves.
Avery has had 'stranger anxiety' since before she was 3 months old. I remember going to the pediatrician's office in May after she was born, and the pediatrician said that Avery was one of the youngest babies she'd seen with stranger anxiety (lucky us!) For the next year, she would basically only be held by me, Travis, and Travis's mom and stepfather. She also would cry when people went near her, or even looked at her. While this is in the range of 'normal' according to the doctor, it's made it challenging for me to take her places, and it's just so much easier to stay in our routines at home. Over the last 6 months, she's made huge improvements, but I want to do my part to help her even more. It's getting easier now that she's recognizing and remembering most of our family on both sides. For the last year or so, I've heard people tell me 'you just need to take her more places and she'll get over it," but that's easier said than done, and honestly, I'm not even sure if I believe that. I believe this is something that she's had to grow out of, and it is part of her personality, and now that she's feeling more comfortable, I can start doing more activities with her. I'm going to start taking her to Storytime at the library with other kids her age. We went on Monday this week, but unfortunately, it was canceled because schools were closed (due to weather.) We stayed for an hour anyway because they have a really great kids section, and there were a few other toddlers there that she waved and said 'hi' to. I would rather ease her into these situations, instead of pushing her into them and having a bad experience. I'm also looking into a mommy and me preschool for 2-year olds that starts in the fall.
For myself, I tend to favor 'alone time' activities like running and reading. However, it's important to me to maintain good friendships and I am going to make more time for friends and play dates. We're going to dinner with some friends on Saturday, and I'm really looking forward to it! I also started yoga again, and I'm not really there to make friends, but just do activity that's not solitary. Actually, yoga is kind of a good balance for me, because it's my own workout, but gets me out and surrounded by other adults and maybe other moms!
My final resolution is:
This one has been easier for me at times in the past, and sometimes more challenging. Recently, it's easy for me to get caught up in complaining and negativity, and that's not me! I am making a conscience decision to try and see the bright side of situations, and not stress about the small stuff. I almost need a daily reminder on this one, but hopefully combining all of these resolutions will make for a great year!